HEALTHY/UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY?
Do you……
- Have fun together
- Each enjoy spending time separately
- Always feel safe with each other
- Trust each other
- Are faithful to each other if you have made this commitment
- Support each others individual goals in life
- Respect each others opinions even when they are different
- Solve conflicts without putting each other down
- Both accept responsibility for your actions
- Both apologise when you are wrong
- Have equal decision-making power
- Each control your own money
- Are proud to be with each other
- Encourage each others interests
- Have some privacy
- Have close friends and family who like the other person and are happy about your relationship
- Never feel like you are being pressured for sex
- Allow each other space when you need it
- Always treat each other with respect
IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP UNHEALTHY?
If one of you …..
- Is extremely jealous
- Accuses the other of cheating
- Puts the other down
- Makes the other feel bad about themselves
- Makes the other feel like a child
- Doesn’t take the other person or things that matter to them seriously
- Doesn’t listen when the other talks
- Frequently criticizes friends or family
- Pressurises the other person for sex
- Hurts, humiliates and embarrasses the other person
- Is unfaithful
- Tells the other how to dress
- Has ever grabbed, pushed, hit or physically hurt the other
- Blames others for their behaviour
- Destroys the other persons possessions
- Prevents education or job success
- Makes all the decisions
- Breaks promises
- Is controlling or very possessive
- Withholds affection
- Uses alcohol or drugs as an excuse for bad behaviour